When every love story you’ve ever heard doesn’t seem to fit your version of happily ever after… don’t you feel like it’s time for a rewrite?
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I see you.
You love love.
You love sex.
You love intimacy and want all of the above & then some, but are so sick of being fed a ‘one size fits all’ version of what’s possible for you.
And every time you try to step outside the lines it seems like you're locked into a very limited narrative. One that paints monogamy as the best, if not only option.
You want polyamory to be as easy as you know in your heart it could be, but having to filter out everything else telling you it’s hard or will never work is kind of exhausting.
Am I right?
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If your heart’s truth were the only thing that mattered... you’d be the hero(ine) of your own spicy sexy unique AF love story right now.
And you know it.
But then the antagonist comes in (dunh dunh dunnhhhh) and tells you that…
You’re probably the only one out there who wants a love like this & like there is no one out there for someone like you
You’ve explored polyamory in the past & it hasn’t turned out so well so you should probably just give up because you’re just not cut out for it
You get jealous and anxious and have so many feelings about sharing your person so it couldn’t ever possibly be easy for you
Now that you opened up your relationship there’s a shit storm brewing and going back to monogamy must be the only solution (spoiler alert from your fairy Godmother: it’s not).
You should be freaking out about coming out, because ‘what will the family/friends/neighbors think?! Will they all disown me? Or treat me like the plague?!?
You want long lasting, deeply satisfying, supportive, and mind-blowing connections in your life… but can’t seem to find all the people who will really meet you there
Oh… and you definitely will never, ever, ever find community. You’ll be alone in this forever and all time.
Any of these sound like a soundtrack playing on repeat in the back of your head?When you know so deeply your heart’s truth?
But how could this be?
When you’re endlessly curious about new uncharted and unorthodox ways of loving?
When you have this inkling that there is just something more for you out there than the love story you’ve been sold for as long as you can remember?
There’s gotta be some missing pages here somewhere right?
Yup. You guessed it.
The reason non-monogamy feels hard is not because you’re doing it wrong.
It’s because you’ve been programmed by a mono-normative narrative (aka monogamy as the best if not only option for healthy love & relationships).
the truth is...
Monogamy was planted deeply in our culture as the norm during the birth of agriculture.
Literally - to make it easier to figure out whose land was whose and mitigate any ahem ‘cross pollination’ so to speak. Oh, and so that treating women and children like property would feel more ‘normal’ for everyone.
Some love story huh?
This narrative was woven into religion, media, medicine, schools, and even clouded the minds of scientists and anthropologists to see monogamy as the only possibility when looking at nature and stories of the past.
Thereby erasing any traces of our more community based ancestors who knew the value of community and sharing in every aspect of life and love.
So when you’re innocently exploring your poly desires and you rub up against this ominous cloud that feels confusing, unknown, or dangerous… this literally has nothing to do with your heart’s truth.
And it has everything to do with the fact that you’ve been spoon fed a narrative that directly conflicts your inner knowing your whole damn life.
It’s about time to burn those outdated pages and rewrite your version of happily ever after so that it feels easy, fun, and life-giving to be your polyamorous self in the world.
Enter... "Love Redefined"
Whether you want to just explore your own limits of what you really want, are set on creating the polycule of your dreams, or anywhere in between there are some simple steps that will help you rewrite your own unique happily ever after:
Make an outline of your heart’s deepest desires
Dream up your support team & get the help you need to rewrite that outdated narrative
Take what you learn and get out there! Shamelessly love, fuck, and commit to who and how you truly desire.
I know, easier written than done.
I won’t lie to you, it can be quite a journey with many obstacles to overcome… but the most epic of stories always is!
But don’t worry, because I’m here to be your fairy Godmother all the way in and through from intro to conclusion (and in a guest appearance for the sequel if needed).
Let’s just take the first step. You’ve got nothing and everything to lose.
If you're feeling hesitant about taking this journey... I see you.
You who have been struggling to piece together some kind of map for your non-monogamous dreams from cutouts of a strictly monogamous paradigm.
You feeling frustrated, lost, and hopeless in the process.
Wondering why it hasn’t worked out for you yet or if you should just give up and give into the vanilla version of love that was painted for you (the one that doesn’t reflect back your multidimensional and infinitely loving soul).
You who’s starting to feel like you landed on the wrong planet, at the wrong time, and maybe even as the wrong species 😿
My heart goes out to you.
If my soul could speak it would say, via the words of my all time favorite story teller, Clarissa Pinkola Estes:
"Go out in the woods, go out. If you don't go out in the woods nothing will ever happen and your life will never begin".
Your love & sex life can look differently than they do now.
It doesn’t have to be like this.
I can promise you that you belong here.
And that your dream life is out there (or rather in there.) Your people exist.
Your community is waiting for you to rewrite your story & step into your own version of happily ever after.
One where you get to have that feeling like you’ve done the impossible and are actually living a life, having the sex, being in love, and supported by the relationships that you only ever fantasized about before.
One where you get to stop just dreaming about how you want your life to look, and step straight into that dream.
This journey is for you if you want to…
Love & make love with who and how you want
Break all the rules of monogamy & redefine your own agreements for happy healthy thriving relationship(s)
Have the tools, mindset, and body-based knowing you need to navigate the world of non-monogamy with ease
Burn all the polyamory propaganda telling you you can only be non-monogamous if you never feel jealous or reactive towards your partner(s).
Find your community and finally feel like you’ve come home
Turn jealousy and into ecstasy
Walk in the world feeling proud of the fact that you turned your fantasy life into reality (and you’re seen & celebrated for it)!
Introducing... Love Redefined
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Introducing... Love Redefined ♡
What’s Love Redefined, you ask?
Love Redefined is a 6 month coaching container for individuals, couples, throuples, & more.
It will help you go from feeling frustrated & lost in your polyamorous journey to feeling the confidence & full aliveness of THRIVING in your unique version of Happily Ever After.
Love Redefined isn’t a one size fits all equation for love.
It is a uniquely customized coaching experience where you get to write yourself into your version of happily ever after.
One where you’ll (metaphorically) receive a magical pen that has the power to reprogram your body and mind from monogamy to literally anything else.
Did I mention there’s at least 10 other possibilities of relating that are not monogamy that you’ve likely never even heard of? But you know, I digress.
There are 5 phases of this epic saga that we’ll journey through together to help thoroughly and completely redefine your love story:
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Get clear on what you and your partner(s) actually desire… your WHY in polyamory
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Receive the tools & practice to start having the best communication at every stage of relationship, from dating profiles all the way to navigating long standing arguments or new life affirming agreements
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Learn how to transform jealousy into ecstasy… and tend to all the responses to sharing the love that you and your partner(s) experience with care, compassion, and respect
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Expand your circles of non-monogamous community and relax into the sense of belonging you’ve been craving (The Poly Support Circle can help with that)
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Receive ongoing support to continue dismantling old narratives of relating while rewriting new ones that align with your heart’s truth
This is not a one-fits-all experience and I truly meant that.
Each of these phases will look very different depending on who you are, what you all want, and where you are at in your journey. You may need to spend the whole time in just one phase, circulate through all 5, or take a side quest into something that feels unrelated but will benefit the whole experience in powerful yet mysterious ways.
There is no right way, and you cannot get it wrong. Your story is yours to write. And that takes time.
This space of 6 months of desire-based coaching is designed to help you and your partner(s):
➤ Go from feeling lost, frustrated and confused in your poly journey
➤ To feeling clear, calm, and ready for any challenge your non-monogamous journey may bring.
Because it doesn’t stop there. This is lifetime love, sex, and commitment we’re going for here. On your terms. In your way.
Ready for your version of happily ever after?
Wondering if it’s for you?
THIS IS FOR THOSE WHO ARE:
Polycurious and exploring their identity around love & sexuality
Polyamorous and dating
Opening up or transitioning their relationship(s)
In a non-monogamous Couple, Throuple, or Polycule
Willing to go deep and show up for themselves, each other, and for this transformation process
IT’S NOT FOR THOSE WHO ARE:
Seeking acute trauma support or therapy
Looking for a ‘quick fix’ solution to their relationship challenges
People unwilling to dig deep and make bold choices that honor who they truly are and what they really want
I’m Michaela, the Poly Love & Sex Coach, co-author of Love Thy Body Sex, Love, & Relationships, host of The Sovereign Heart Podcast, and proud visionary artist of love.
my own story
I was 23 when I found out that the world of consensual non-monogamy (CNM) existed & as I peeked through that open door I found it lit up my mind, heart, and body in a way I had never experienced before.
I spent a long time feeling alone, confused, and without a soul in the world who could understand why it was so important to me to explore this unknown narrative about love, sex, and relationship that was so different than anything I had ever come across before.
Seeing that open door though was so much different than actually walking through it.
And I couldn’t have done that alone.
Which is why I created LOVE REDEFINED to help people like you redefine your own unique version of love & sex & commitment and write yourself into a story that allows you to not only embrace that inner truth… but actually LIVE IT!
Because I believe that everyone has a love & sexual blueprint that is SO unique to them that the story of monogamy couldn’t possibly contain the limitless variations of that truth!
From coming out, to dating, to exploring agreements, developing healthy communication & rituals, to expanding polycules, navigating jealousy, transitioning relationships, creating lifelong commitments, and creating community… I meet you where you’re at and let desire lead the way to really stepping into the story that you previously only dreamed was possible.
With the core values of TRUTH, LOVE, and TRUST as our guiding light for this journey, we’ll welcome in the power of unconditional love, radical acceptance, and celebration every step of the way. So you’ll feel supported from inside out to feel safe enough to get out of your own way and start writing yourself into the life and love you’ve always dreamed of.
What are you waiting for?
The Goodies & The Investment
6 month 1:1 and/or Couples & More Coaching Journey
2 x 75 min calls/month (1:1, 1:2, and/or 1:3 & more)
Custom designed practices & prompts for in between sessions
Unlimited support M-F via whatsapp for everyone in the container
Access to any classes/workshops for the duration of coaching
1:1 Coaching
6 payments of $266/month
Couples & More Coaching
6 payments of $332/month
30% off of any coaching container (offer valid until OCTOBER 31st)
1:1 Coaching ➡ 6 payments of $186/month
Couples & More Coaching ➡ 6 payments of $186/month
*Sliding scale pricing available, let’s chat about it!
I offer lower & higher tier pricing to those in need & those wanting to give.
When you choose to pay a higher tier you are anonymously supporting someone else to receive the lower tier option… Why?
Because non-monogamy for me is more than about sharing love, but creating opportunities to share resources as well… so if you got the love feel free to share it, and if you need the love here’s the chance to receive :)
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"I could envision having love that includes the physical, intellectual, and spiritual connection that I crave."
After working with Michaela I got out of black & white thinking, felt way more open, adventurous, and could envision having love that includes the physical, intellectual, and spiritual connection that I crave. I loved her creative toolset, the grounding, the parts work that she led me in, and her joy, positivity, and open inquiry.
✷ Ember, Bay Area
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"One of the best decisions I have ever made, I wholeheartedly recommend her!"
I am so grateful for Michaela!
With deep attunement, embodied wisdom and precise support her work has brought me into vital changes in my health and love life. With her mentoring I have activated several key habit changes as well as moving forward significantly with my life goals.
Each session was empowering, profoundly encouraging and rich with effective wellbeing practices and advanced love skills. One of the best decisions I have made.. I wholeheartedly recommend her!
✷ Sheya Gracewind
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"I would love to work with her again!"
Michaela was a treat to work with! I appreciated her mind/body connection and patience with me as I worked through some relationship hurdles. She simply guided and never forced opinions or directives. I would love to work with her again!
✷ Erin B, Arizona
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"I learned more about sexuality & dating in one hour than I have in the last 5 years."
I had been looking to accept this aspect of myself [desire] purely mentally and spiritually and not checking in physically… I learned more [about sexuality & dating] in one hour than I have in the last 5 years. Thank you so much Michaela for sharing space with me, my gratitude cannot be expressed enough!
✷ Gordon
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"She opened my eyes to the connection between our bodies and emotions... she is gifted in her ability to help."
I want to give Michaela an excellent recommendation. I am a California licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. It is hard as a therapist to open up and do your own work. I had been harboring resentment towards a family member. I was wondering if I was ever going to be able to forgive. Michaela did a very good job of listening and then presenting session exercises that helped me look at how this resentment was affecting me. She opened my eyes to "somatic" issues and the connection between our bodies and emotions. I really appreciate working with her and believe that she is gifted in her ability to help.
✷ Jamie B, Seattle
You may be wondering…
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I work with people who are exploring their identity around love & sexuality, polycurious, polyamorous and dating, opening up or transitioning their relationship(s), & CNM veterans looking to sharpen their relationship toolbelt. If you're still unsure if this is for you, I invite you to jump on a call with me here.
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3 x 75 min 1:1 Coaching calls/month
Unlimited support via telegram M-F 10am-5pm PST
Custom designed practices & prompts for in between sessions
Access to any classes/workshops for the duration of the container
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75 mins, 3x/month + 30mins/week for homework
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Anytime M, Th, or F starting between 10am-4pm PST
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$400 for 1:1 Coaching or $600 for Couples Coaching. $700 for Throuples, Polycules, & More Coaching.
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After our curiosity call you’ll receive a contract with terms and agreements that I encourage you to read thoroughly before signing
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Yes! I offer 1:1 as well as 1:2 & More Coaching. You are welcome to book a 1:2 & More Curiosity Call here
I INVITE YOU TO...
Redefine your true love nature!
And start living out the love story that is uniquely YOURS to claim!